to the Editor, Boston Globe
again I take to my keyboard to try to shine a light through the
adoption haze to the truth. I am referring to the article concerning
open records for adult adoptees and the claims made by Mr. Kuster,
who says he represents "mainly 'birth' parents."
represent an online group of over 800 first Mothers who are trying,
with all their might, to get one simple fact across to the media
and the American public. Here goes again..VERY FEW, IF ANY, OF
US WERE PROMISED, ASKED FOR OR WANTED ANONYMITY OR "PRIVACY" FROM
OUR OWN CHILDREN! The only privacy that we wanted was at the time
of our pregnancies, especially in the "bad old days" when many
of us were forced into maternity homes and coerced into surrendering
our babies, from the prying eyes and vicious tongues of society.
NOT from our adult children.
we signed away our parental rights, we did NOT sign away our love,
concern or Motherhood. The adult adoptee has every right to a
free and clear access to their original birth certificates and
adoption records without any veto rights for either adopters or
first parents. They should have the same right that we all have..to
know our heritage! It's a simple matter of civil rights. Hiding
out in shame is passe'. Our children need to know.
Maintaining the BEBA Website"Birth"-Mothers Exploited By Adoption
Mothers, add your signatures to the Declaration
For Open Records Everwhere
We, mothers separated from our children by adoption, hereby
state publicly and unequivocally that we fully support
open records for adult adoptees. We further state
publicly and unequivocally that we were NEVER promised
privacy or confidentiality, either verbally or in writing,
at any time prior to, during, or after the surrender
of our children to adoption.