First Mothers Action Group: Who We Are
We are a group of mothers who lost children to adoption, not
by "informed choice" but through fraud, coercion,
and force. None of us would have chosen what we have gone through.
Most of us are reunited with adult children, but some are recent
victims of the "open adoption" lie -- having been
promised open adoptions which then closed.
Those of us who have reunited now see first-hand the damage
that adoption did to our children.
Our Mission - To Present The TRUTH
To campaign for the right of all pregnant
women to be FULLY informed of a) the effects of surrender
BEFORE THE FACT and b) their rights of access to support resources
to help them keep their babies.
To educate of other members of the adoption
group and the general public about the injustices done to
the First Mother as per coercion, social pressures and worse.
To apply continuous pressure on the media
to discontinue its persistent derogatory portrayal of first
mothers. This, as well as #2, is a civil rights issue!
To campaign for the law to recognize the inherent
right of first parents to know the welfare and condition of
their surrendered children - that being unable to know the
ongoing welfare and condition of the child you love is unimaginable
cruelty. Further that, if any young women DO choose to surrender
to a so-called "open" adoption, that the agreement
be enforceable by law.
To support equal access to opened records
for first parents in addition to open records for adoptees.
To support INVESTIGATION into unethical, improper
and illegal adoption practices and the abuse of human and
civil rights of mothers in North America.
To campaign for: 1) a Truth and Reconciliation
Hearings in the U.S. and a Congressional Investigation into
adoption industry practices, and 2) a Parliamentary Inquiry
in Canada into adoption industry practices in Canada.
- To research and promote alternatives to adoption that do not
involve the destruction of the natural family, coercive/forced
surrender, or other unethical or fraudulent adoption practices.
To expose the industry-led white-washing of
adoption that is called "Positive/respectful Adoption
Language" for as being the anti-natural-family campaign
that it is, and to promote "Honest Adoption Language."
The BEBA website, Celebrating
Natural Families! website (KeepYourBaby.com), and Birthmothers.info
are our three most visible projects. Members are also active
in writing to the media and legislators in order to support
open records and to address misinformation about natural parents.
Joining First Mothers Action
This group is by "invitation only," in that new members
must be sponsored by existing members. If you are looking for
activist groups to join that are "open" in membership,
then we recommend the groups on our Resources
Insights, MSN Adoptese,
etc.). Some of our members are active in some of these groups
and we can get to know you through your membership and your
work in them and others, making sponsorship possible.
What about Exiled fathers?
Exiled natural fathers are important as well, but their issues
are slightly different in focus than those of natural mothers.
Currently, our group is for mothers only (this might change
in the future), but we encourage natural fathers to become active
in groups such as CUB,
and Trackers International.
We look forward to working in cooperation with natural
fathers in other groups.