one told me that it was going to be so traumatic"
- Kay Russell
1968, I become pregnant with my second child. All I had ever heard
about adoption is how "wonderful" it is. I was, also, well aware
of how prejudiced society was then against young, single mothers --
though I was in a strong position to care for my two children. It
was never about lack of resources or family support for me; it was
completely about lack of moral support for my motherhood by society
chose adoption for my daughter, before she was born, because no one
told me that it was going to be so traumatic -- only that it was "wonderful"
and "selfless" for me to choose adoption. Not even my mother knew
how devastating adoption was going to be for me, or she would have
protected me from it by not supporting "which ever decision" I made.
My mom is fiercely protective, and she would have insisted that I
forget about adoption if she had known the consequences for me.
know have a dissociative disorder due to the loss of my daughter to
adoption, and my therapists have been telling me that I suffer PTSD
symptoms. I've been in therapy for several years now, and I do not
see an end in sight to my emotional problems due to the adoption of
Mothers in America are taking action: OriginsUSA
"respectful" adoption language:
The terms "unwed"
mother, "birthmother", "birthmom", "birthmoms", "dear birthparent", "birthparent",
"birthparents", "birthfather" "biological" make a parent appear
to be less than the mother or father they are. These terms dehumanize
and limit the parent's role to that of an incubator. Using the honest
terms "mother", "single mother" or "natural mother"
help the public to understand why real family members must not be separated
to obtain babies for adoption.