for Exiled Mothers
INC. (Australia) (recommended!!)
"... founded in 1995 by exiled
mothers who, having lost their children to
adoption, were being continuously re-traumatised each time
so-called "experts and health professionals" minimized
and invalidated the severe emotional anguish, trauma, and
grief left in the wake of their adoption experience, assuming
that we, as mothers, should have accepted the loss of our
living babies - as if it were possible to do that."
This group accomplished the impossible: their
efforts produced a parliamentary inquiry which pronounced
coercive adoption practices (modelled on those in the U.S.
and Canada) to be illegal and unethical. Check
out their online
Scoop Research Initiative "Founded in 2007
by two mothers dedicated to research, education and inquiry
into the period of American adoption history known as the
Baby Scoop Era, The Baby Scoop Era Research Initiative is
established on principles of historical accuracy, truth
and justice. We demand acknowledgement of the historical
truth surrounding adoption practice in the United States
during the Baby Scoop Era. We demand recognition for the
millions of women who were systematically denied their inalienable
right to raise their infant sons and daughters".
Crossroads "the only organization
in America that supports Adoptees and Exiled Mothers."
Check out their "Adoptese"
Chatroom. and the Adoptese
Support Page. A moderated support group
for first-mothers. Three support groups lists for exiled
mothers: Searching, Reunited (the well-known "RBM list"),
and Rejected. A good group for those at the start of the
healing-journey, who are not at the anger-stage yet.
United Birthparents (C.U.B.) P.O. Box 230457,
Encinitas, CA 92023, 1-800-822-2777 Fax: 760-929-1879
Groups - Canada
Canada: The Canadian affiliate of Origins Inc. (above)
Council of Natural Mothers (CCNM) "Providing
a united voice for natural mothers who seek openness in
adoption." Website has good links
page of information on searching for natural relatives
AND understanding the impact of adoption.
Groups - United Kingdom & Ireland
Mothers is open to everyone with a genuine interest
in adoption past - present - future and debate is encouraged.
Support, advice and expertise is available for single mothers
and fathers. It's free to join, there's no mandate, censorship
or restrictions. Our non-discrimination policy ensures no
one is excluded on gounds of religion, race, politics, sexual
orientation or age. Forgotten Mothers is sponsored by Trackers
International a non-profit organisation founded in 1979
that reunited 12,000 before the law was changed. And it's
the only adoption investigation organisation in Europe.
Parent's Network (N.P.N.)
"For natural parents
and relatives who have lost children to adoption."
"NPN operates nationwide in the U.K. and has over 1200
members since it started in 1987."
Parents Network of Ireland (N.P.N.I.)
firstname.lastname@example.org "The Natural Parents
Network is a voluntary self-help organisation formed in
1996 by a group of women who had been parted from their
children by adoption in the past. We provide help to natural
families separated by adoption in four ways: Individual
advice by email or letter; Monthly open meetings; Information
to Media on adoption issues; Views to Government on adoption
legislative reform." NPNI
PO Box 6714, Dublin 4, Eire
[adopters] lobby actually wanted all birth records
effectively "buried" so that there would be
no means by which any connection could be made between
natural mothers and their adopted children.." Briefing
paper for Father Churchill. Natural Parents Network of
Ireland, MAY 24, 1999
YOU LOSE YOUR BABY TO "BLACK MARKET"* ADOPTION?
you were told your baby had died, but the doctor WOULDN'T
LET YOU SEE THE BODY.
you began searching for your lost son/daughter and discovered
that there is NO ADOPTION RECORD or BIRTH CERTIFICATE
Black market adoption: the sale of infants by unscrupulous
willing to do anything to obtain someone else's
Mothers may have been told that their babies had died.
Market Adoptee's Registry. dedicated to "black
Market" Adoption Webring : Sites
dealing with the issue of "black market" baby
brokers, and sites of adult adoptees whose adoptions were
black market and who are in search of their original families.
Market Adoption. An article by M. Haviland
Cole Baby Registry. Cole Babies are adoptees
born in Miami, Florida, between 1927 and 1963, adopted through
Katherine M. Cole, Ruby Sutera, or Ephrain Suarez (The Suarez
Clinic). Dr. Cole allegedly falsified names, addresses,
and even the sex of the baby on birth certificates and other
documents, and may have separated twins. If you are a birth
mother and you see a date you recognize, please contact
us, even if you believe the sex of the baby listed is incorrect.
Bernard: Black Market Baby Broker. This site
contains info regarding Bessie Bernard, who was notorious
for black market adoptions in which the child was born
in Florida and placed in New York
Testing for Adoptees and Natural Parents Genetic searches
are often the only way a black-market-adoption victim --
parent or child -- can find their missing family members.
Websites of Exiled Mothers:
Exiled Mother's Story.
by Karen Wilson Buterbaugh - Adoption in a time (1966) when
unwed pregnant mothers were incarcerated in maternity "homes"
by their parents, with the condition of admittance to the
facility being surrender of their babies.
Dismembered Families: Adopting-Back the Adult Children We
Lost to adoption as infants -- restoring the legal
ties ("filiation") severed by strangers when they
took our infants by force and coercion. Forcably separated
and made "legal strangers" to each other by baby
brokers and industry customers (adopters), we can now as
adults choose to restore our LEGALLY-RECOGNIZED family relationship.
of the Fog" by "Suzie Kidnap".
An online video in which mothers speak about adoption. VERY
L. Ayres Master of Arts Thesis Exhibit" This
work is in the form of autobiographical episodic series
that reveal the pain and trauma of losing my only child
for Open Records Everywhere" by Linda Freeman
They Stole My Baby: The Secrets and Lies of an "Open
Adoption" by Sharon Smith - One mother's experience
with the "Small Miracles" adoption agency
Adoption - The Life, Times And Opinions Of A Natural Mother
Mothers in Exile Adoption Website "My name
is Erika Klein and I am a natural mother separated by adoption
in 2001. My 4-year-old daughter Emma was taken by child
welfare authorities and put up for adoption after spending
the first 16 months with me and her older sister. My older
daughter and I remain together but we miss Emma greatly.
This website is dedicated to people separated and afflicted
by the scars of adoption."
Sites which unfortunately
use the term that social wreckers coined for us in order to
limit us to being reproduction units or "breeders":
Mother Tree "For many years I've wanted to
do something to honor not only my loss, but the losses that
all mothers suffer when we surrender our children for adoption.
We've been kept silent and in the shadows for too long.
We've done nothing wrong, and nothing to be ashamed of.
... We who love our children so much that we gave
them a better life despite our own pain deserve to be recognized
and honored for making the ultimate sacrifice."
FOLLOWING WEBSITES ARE SPONSORED BY THE ADOPTION INDUSTRY
AND ENCOURAGE WOMEN TO SURRENDER. STATEMENTS CRITICAL OF OR
DISCOURAGING ADOPTION ARE NOT PERMITTED ON THEIR MESSAGE BOARDS.
Note: The terms "unwed" mother, "birthparent", "biological" parent
make a parent appear to be less than the mother or father they are.
These terms dehumanize and limit the parent's role to that of an
incubator. Using the honest terms "mother", "single
mother" or "natural mother" help the public to understand
why real family members must not be separated to obtain babies for