I've been wondering about the media and the slant they always
seem to adopt (there's that word again) when dealing with triad
issues. It's puzzled me for a long time. You would
expect that, being the liberal advocates they are, they would
be supporters of the wronged side in this triangle, namely the
natural mother. I just couldn't understand this deviation
from their usual modus operandi.
big light bulb went off last night at a fund raising dinner I
attended last night. By the luck of the draw, I was seated
at a table with members of the media (TV and Press). To
my amazement, the conversation turned to the recent discovery
of one couple's adopted daughter's natural mother. Deja
Vu all over again. I kept my mouth shut at the beginning
of the conversation (for a change) to see where the thread (have
to stop spending so much time on this machine) would lead.
To my amazement, EVERY couple at the table chimed in on the conversation
with comments relative to how they would react if their adopted
children ever wanted to search for their natural mothers. There
were four media couples at this table and they all had adopted
children!! Does that tell us anything or what?! If
these people represent a media tendency to adopt, no wonder we're
having problems with public relations.
to say, after I had gathered all the information I wanted, I entered
the conversation with a bomb! Said very sweetly, "Would
you like to know how a natural mother feels about this subject?"
after the porter mopped all the blood from the floor, we all did
manage to have a very strained dialog for the rest of the meal.
I think they were amazed that they were actually breaking bread
with their worst enemy who not only ate without using her fingers,
but could also maintain an intelligent conversation.
one of them said, "But you're not the usual run-of-the-mill Birthmother!"
"Oh, but I am, and there are millions more just like me and we're
mad, so prepare yourself," I said.
I would give anything to hear the conversations in those cars
on the way home.
First mother to Jessica 5/10/61
Reunited with Deni on 12/31/97