Why There Is No Adoption "Triad"
Instances of "adoption triad" on this website are for
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We find the word "triad" misleads people to believe that
adoption is inherently a cooperative situation among three equal
parties: the mother (natural family), her child and the person(s)
who adopted her child.
Individuals may cooperate, but the adopted person - often deprived
of access to the most basic information about herself - and the
mother whose parental rights have been violated know this is not
inherently a cooperative situation among "equals".
Even more misleading, the term "triad" leaves out that
all-important fouth entity - the promoters of adoption and the adoption
agencies and attorneys who profit from "services" designed
to obtain babies for customers.
The only people who have power in adoption are the adopters and
the adoption promoters/agencies. So two entities have all of the
power and two (mothers and their children) have none. There is no
Sometimes the term "adoption triad" is used to make mothers
believe adoption will be like some happy marriage-like situation
between themselves and the adopters. Some adoptions may give the
appearance of such a "marriage" of equals, but the appearance
of equality is entirely at the discretion of the adopters and can
change at any moment, leaving natural family members - including
the adopted person - feeling devastated and used.
Note that in intercountry adoption where it's not necessary to
deceive mothers into surrendering their babies to the seemingly
"friendly" prospective adopters, there is no pretense
of a "triad".